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10 Things Not To Forget About When Planning Your Wedding

by Shanna Colebe (2020-10-10)

A great number of years ago, I got engaged. I was the happiest woman alive. I had great hopes for my wedding day, and wanted everything to be absolutely perfect. What bride doesn't? Well, want in one hand, and you-know-what in the other.

We didn't have a lot of money, so we decided to do almost everything on our own. And when I mean we, I mean me and my mother. My fiancé wasn't around much to help, wasn't a lot of help when he was around, and didn't have much to say when I asked for his input. If you loved this post and you would like to obtain a lot more facts pertaining to Choose Wedding Photographer kindly take a look at our website. Maybe I should have taken all that as a bad sign...but, then, hindsight is 20/20. He pretty much stuck to picking out the tuxes and hiring the DJ, aka his friend.

The Best Pieces of Advice I Can Give
There are so many things to think about. So many things to do, and there never seems to be enough time to do it all. A site for the ceremony, someone to perform it, music, reception halls, never seems to end. It makes a person dizzy, just thinking about it all. What do you really need to remember? What can you not forget? It may seem like every detail has to be exactly perfect, but if it isn't, will anyone except for you really know the difference? I am not going to go into the little details that you may, or may not want, to think about when planning your wedding. I am going to cover pretty basic things, and give some advice and tips based on my own experiences with weddings. Some of these things I had never really thought about during the planning of my own wedding.


1. Time
Out of everything involved in the planning of a wedding, this is the single most important issue. When do you want your wedding? Do you want a summer wedding? A spring wedding? This is the most important thing to think about. After you have decided around what time of the year that you want your wedding, you have a lot of other things to think about. A lot of reception sites can be booked solid for two years in advance before they have an opening. This is especially true if you want a summer wedding. June through August is wedding season. Everything is harder to book for a summer wedding, and usually costs a bit more. If you are cutting costs, think about maybe a fall or winter wedding instead. Weekends present the same issue. A wedding on a Saturday usually ends up costing more than a Friday wedding. Many places offer discounts for Friday weddings over Saturday weddings. If you are dead set on a summer wedding, make sure you have enough time to get everything done that you need to do, and that you have options available to you. Is there one place you really want to have the ceremony? Call and see what is available. You may end up having to wait a year or more to get that desired location. You have so many things to book, and they all have to fall on the same day. That means a lot of phone calls and a lot of rearranging of schedules. You are going to need a lot of time to get all of this done! You have to book an officiant, a ceremony site, a reception site, potentially a caterer, photographer, videographer, baker, and a DJ or band, and they all have to have the same day available. That takes a lot of work, and a lot of time.

Give yourself plenty of time to do all this, while still allowing for some time that isn't wrapped around wedding plans. Wedding planning burnout does happen! I know firsthand! I only had seven months to plan my wedding, and with doing everything myself, it was all I ever thought about. I had dreams and nightmares about wedding cakes, flower girls, you name it! Make sure you take some time for yourself. Do something that has absolutely nothing to do with the wedding planning.

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The Dress
Remember, you need to be able to breathe!!
Remember, you need to be able to breathe!!

2. The Dress
Everything starts with the dress. The moment that engagement ring is on your finger, you start to picture that perfect wedding dress. Strapless? A train? Bead-work? Simple and elegant, or bold and daring? Take your time. There are thousands upon thousands of dresses out there, and you are only one person. Browse catalogs, tear the pages out with the dresses you like the best. Try on dress after dress after dress. Take pictures, if they let you (A lot of places won't let you take pictures!!! As terrible as that sounds, it's true!)

Bring someone with you while you shop for a dress. Make sure it's someone you trust, someone you know will be honest, and someone who doesn't mind hours of boredom as you go through the difficult maneuvers of trying on all those dresses. Pick something you love, but also remember, you will be in that dress for hours!!! Make sure you are comfortable and you can breath. While it may make an amusing YouTube video, no one wants to pass out from lack of oxygen on their wedding day. Obviously, white is traditional for brides on their wedding day, but if you have a wilder, more vibrant personality, throw in a little color. A lot of dresses offer little touches of color that give it a personality all its own.

My mother is an amazing seamstress, so we made my wedding dress. She handled the sewing machine, and I handled all the hand sewing work. Hours and hours of tedious labor, but it was worth it. I had a one of a kind dress that meant so much more to me than any dress I could have bought in a store. So, if you have a relative who has quite a talent behind a sewing machine, that could be an option for you. Fabric stores offer a wide variety of wedding dress patterns, special occasion fabric, lace, and everything you would need to make a one of a kind wedding dress, and it costs a lot less!!!

Just remember, this day is about you, so the dress should reflect who you are, so make sure it is exactly the one you want. Your mother may be dead-set on you wearing the dress she wore when she married your father, but if it isn't you, consider having it altered, so that it's a bit more updated, and more your style.