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Melaluna Sleep Aid

by Alisa lisa Sophia (2019-05-17)

I married my college sweetheart, and we had our Melaluna Sleep Aid first kid child the very next year. It was a blow to my career before it even began. I tried the remedy of pursuing a master's degree between both children, but that did little to boost my chances of being hired. At that time, I thought work was for me, my career and how I feel about myself. Later, I realized that work also gives something that nothing else can; which is financial independence. Horror stories of men who dump women, cheat on them and abuse them flashed before my eyes. I love my husband, who is incredibly supportive and loving, but what if he wasn't? He is amazing now, but what if he won't be later? At that point, I made up my mind that being a stay-at-home mother, even if temporary, was a terrible idea. If you can't walk out of a relationship no matter how bad it gets, how will you ever sleep at night again? If a woman is under a man's control because he feeds and clothes her, what protects her from marital rape, physical abuse or being abandoned all of a sudden? Also, if a woman trusts her husband forever, why would she choose to be a financial burden on him, when she can have a second income and support herself? Being the feminist I am, it was a no-brainer that I need to get a job, and fast Later, I read several articles in support of stay-at-home motherhood, which made my first few weeks of my second baby's life a little easier for me. However, a single analogy changed it all. For me, I'm a pretty tough cookie. I'm like a bulldog when God says I do it. I may grit my teeth, I may cry myself to sleep for weeks at a time, and yes I have done that, but I always do it. My fear of not obeying what God has called me to do is more fearful than the doing. However, I have a tough personality. I have almost always had to take care of myself. When I was 12 years old my mom came to me at the end of the school year and said you have to get a job this summer. I can't buy your school clothes anymore - I had a brother and a sister as well - so you're going to have to start taking care of yourself. Remember I was 12. The hardships we have endured and the lives we have lived make us the people that we are.