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Inteligen Review

by Sumaiya Afiz (2019-02-25)

Once the delivery is complete, ask the child to repeat what you have told them. If they missed something Inteligenor did not quite grasp certain parts of the message, restate only those pieces. Follow-up with the child to ensure the task was completed to your satisfaction.Do you want to learn exactly how to eliminate your child's out-of-control and defiant behavior without using Punishments, Time-Outs, Behavioral Plans, or Rewards?Children with ODD can present a number of different challenges for a parent to deal with. These children are prone to defy even simple directions. They often have a hard time expressing their emotions in a productive manner and will resort to temper tantrums, back talking and in some cases violent acts. They also have a rough time maintaining meaningful friendships with children their own age. A parent can help their child through these difficult behaviors by incorporating a set of rules that are enforced by both parents.One of the most common symptoms of ODD is the blatantly disobeying a set of rules or instructions that have been outlined by the parent. Parents naturally become frustrated and often times angry over this constant defiant behavior, but it is important to remember it is the behavioral disorder and not the child. Do not let the child see your frustration in your facial expressions or by the tone of your voice. This will most likely cause the child to become defensive and possibly more defiant.It is imperative these children have rules and boundaries that are consistently enforced. They may throw tantrums or say hateful things, but do not let them avoid their responsibility to follow the established rules. Allowing them to get around or bend the rules even one time lets them know their strategies work. You have to stop letting their tactics work in order to curb future outbursts.When a child is particularly defiant, calmly state the rules again. In a situation where the behavior is inappropriate, calmly inform them what the appropriate behavior is. Teach them the words and behaviors they can use in the future.To date, one of my favorite "Yodisms" is "Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering." That is so very true. How many times in my life have I let my emotions become destructive? It always results in suffering. These are important words, not just for a young Padawan (apprentice). Notice that this pathway begins with fear.